While we have been listening to ourselves in our trainings so far, now we are going to focus on the other person. Our trainers promise that the exact understanding of another’s message will become routine through practice. Once we started, we can no longer watch the other person any other way. We will practice this skill. The following writing is intended for preliminary thinking and tuning:
Each Interaction creates a relationship: it determines the energy level of the connection and limits the energy of the other person, the channel it can respond to. The relationship defines the range of options from which the partners can choose when exchanging messages. Where there is a brawl, there is a set of beats, where you are in love, there is styles of caress, where you compete, you can choose from the toolbox of status signals. One of the important components of the interaction between the two people is the message, which is often obscured, or perhaps indirectly communicated with the other. When we focus on the messages in communication, we can learn more about ourselves and others: what is the motivation, what is the purpose, what is the picture about itself and what images it carries about the world and how it interacts with the motivations, goals, self-image and worldview. As a tune-up, start to pay attention to how you perceive these four things in the simplest sentences and bring your experiences to training! See you soon.